When you have a child with a learning disability you are certainly aware that you have your hands full but dealing with that child and the input of the other parent can be sometimes more than you can handle. It doesn’t mean that the two of you can’t peacefully co-exist. It doesn’t mean that you can’t make sound decisions for your child. It just means that you have to spend a little more time examining the situation. Remembering a few key things will make everything easier to navigate.
Remember first to examine if the decision is what you want or what is best for the child. Sometimes it’s okay for a decision to be based on what is best for you, but you need to know the difference. So if it comes to something like keeping him home on a Friday night when he has a little bit of a cold or shipping him off to your brother’s house for the weekend it might be okay to be selfish if you recognize that he is capable of being away for a weekend and that he’ll be fine and that you really need the break.
What if the choice is what school should he go to? One school may be clearly better than the other but the commute is far less, than that is a problem and something that needs to be corrected immediately. You can be a little selfish on some things but not everything.
Also remember that it’s okay to disagree. Sometimes you tend to take it as a personal affront when you are challenged about your child but if you knew all the answers you wouldn’t have to spend a second thinking about it. The fact is raising a child who has a disability is a learning process and one you and your spouse must be patient with.